I have been in a lot of relationships to know how men work! They tend to be very complex and indirect human-beings. I am not saying that us women are not because we are but there is a difference. Men like to fall into a pit and not have any emergency exit strategy.
Cheating is pretty much all about the pleasure for men and they do not put in much thought about the consequences from either party. Whereas women tend to plan these things out, very precise, and we know exactly how it is going to end. In no way am I saying, "Hey, men are stupid," but if thinking with your penis is stupid then so be it.
If you are in a relationship you are pretty much bond by the love contract until the policy must be revised. Now if someone completely breaks the agreement by acting untrustworthy and committing infidelity then there is a problem. Now you can resubmit this contract after all parties have been forgiven and document the case or you can refuse all contracts with this party in the future. In layman's terms you can forgive your partner or break up with them.
If forgiven there are always going to be changes in the relationship. It could be anything from extra nagging, no trust, where you been speeches, etc. Men act as if they do not spread their seed they are going to die and no one can be in a relationship with that so what do you do? You got three choices: break up with him, become gay, or have an open mind to your closed relationship.
We all know how the first two end and the title of this post is "Open Minds in a Closed Relationship". So what does this mean? Lol exactly what it means silly!! Give him exactly what he wants but set rules so you both have control over the situation. But hey are we not in a relationship?? Yes you are but let's be realistic about whereabouts of your significant other!
Emotionally cheating is the worse there is as far as maintaining a relationship. Unless that person comes home with an STD but you were suppose to set rules so that's on you. Sexual curiosity is something that can not be killed by love. Now if you have a person who does not have a problem with staying faithful then you are good!
Well, true open minds in a closed relationship leads to a dysfunctional one in deed. However, we all must explore ones reasons for cheating. For example, Yes, men do cheat as a matter of pleasure; but it more for rebellious reasons. People need to realize that if they want to make commitment they should honor it. The benefits are much greater that way.
ReplyDeleteHowever, I like the penis logic part, even if you retracted it.
A lot of women like to call men "stupid" and assume he thinks with his penis all the time because she is upset with him or men in general. However, the problem about using emotional reasoning is that it fails to use logic. If a man "Thinks with his penis" that means he used his "Penis thought" to make her a suitable mate. So using Penis logic, if a man cheats on his woman that means her pussy is no good. Which I can tell you as a man, if a guy uses that excuse...he was going play her regardless.
I find that women are equally judged by men. Too many men thing women only want him for his material goods. Basically, she cheated on me because she is a hoe. Not realizing that she may of cheated oh him simply because of his lack of respect for her 'desires' could of left an emotional void open and one she is willing to fore-fill. Every man biggest fear is that another man will capitalize on his woman just as easy as he did. His insecurity, will lead to her uncertainty about about his ability as leader, so she will rebel. However, if she manufacture the evidence with her own imagination..she was going to play him regardless.
However, both are a symptom of Open minds like you said. They want love but don't wanna play by the rules and wonder why it didn't work out.